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Always the Potential for Good

3 Things by Aviva Goldfarb, The Six O’Clock Scramble

3 Things by Aviva Goldfarb, The Six O’Clock Scramble

Truth

When I was in my late 20s and early 30s, I was paralyzed by crippling anxiety. Even driving to the mall or introducing myself in a meeting could make my pulse race and make me want to run and hide under the covers.

Then, in my late 30’s, my closest friend developed an aggressive form of breast cancer and died after a horrific battle, leaving behind three beautiful children. Also during this period, my dad was killed in a hit-and-run accident by a drunk driver, while out walking his new puppy around the neighborhood.

These life-shattering experiences aren’t anything that I would want to repeat — and were very hard to recover from. But they have a silver lining: they help me keep things in perspective today.

I try to remember that there is always the potential for good and a chance to learn something new, even in a frustrating situation. As long is no one is sick or dying, everything is fixable — and an integral part of our too short, precious lives.

Tip

Eat the way you want your kids to eat — and be patient. 

As Chief Recipe Developer for The Six O’Clock Scramble meal planning service, my professional specialty is healthy, homemade, family-friendly food.

At home, our meals are mostly meatless and center around seasonal, locally grown and organic ingredients. Because of it, it’s not uncommon for our kids to dig into curried lentil soup with squash or a stir-fry with tofu and green beans — and our 13-year-old daughter is a vegetarian who would choose broccoli over candy.

But I’m not patting myself on the back too hard — I’ve also raised a 16 year old son whose favorite foods are burgers, wings and ribs and who would probably never eat veggies if I didn’t encourage him. I remain hopeful that this is just a phase, albeit a long one.

Japanese Soba Noodles with Garlic and Mushrooms KW

Find

Running a consuming business and a household with three pets and two active teenagers means I rarely have much downtime — and I spend far too much time on my laptop and smartphone.

I like to quiet my mind at the end of the day by reading a novel in bed, the kind printed on real paper rather than on an electronic reader, so I can get a break from screens for a while.

My recent favorite is The Round House by Louise Erdrich — a gripping character-driven story about a terrifying and confusing crime that takes place on an Indian reservation in North Dakota, told mostly from the perspective of a 13-year-old boy. (It’s also a National Book Award winner and Amazon Best of the Month).

If you want to check out my other favorite books (maybe we have similar taste), please visit the Pinterest board I’ve created with books I think are worth reading. I’d love you to share your recommendations, too. You can reach me at aviva@thescramble.com.

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Contributor: Aviva from The Six O’Clock Scramble
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  • Laura@MotherWouldKnow April 24, 2013 at 12:00 pm

    Aviva, You’re an inspiration. If there is any justice in the world, your son will become a healthy eater by choice sometime soon, but if not, you’re still one heck of a mom/friend/person & dare I say, wife:) Seriously, your generous and joyful approach to family life and healthy eating is part of a bigger and quite wonderful approach to life. Thanks for sharing.

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  • JulieD April 24, 2013 at 12:46 pm

    Wow, Aviva, I had no idea. I just know that no matter what we’re going through, we need to be kind and have compassion for others because we have no idea what the person has gone through or are going through at that moment. I hope I get to see you this year and give you a big hug! :-)

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  • dan obeirne April 25, 2013 at 10:54 am

    Great post Aviva! best from Spain, D

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  • Stacey B. May 10, 2013 at 9:06 pm

    Sometimes we need a shocking or traumatic event to wake us up and bring us back to reality. Sometimes we need horrific things like this to happen to make us appreciate what we have. Sometimes these things happen and they make us better people and we strive to make the world a better place for our children and our children’s children. I have had cancer hit my family recently and I found that solace was hard to find. You hear about cancer constantly but it doesn’t really impact you until you are dealing with it firsthand. I found that reading about it, researching it, and finding forums about it were helpful and inspirational. I read an incredible biography about a young woman, Jhumki Basu, a teacher, humanitarian, environmentalist, activist who was taken by breast cancer in her 30′s but made such a strong impact on the world during her time here! The book is written by her father, Dipak Basu, and it’s called “Mission to Teach” (http://missiontoteach.org/). The book is inspiring and moving and has motivated me to make the most of what I have :) Wise, honest, and filled with grace in the face of a devastating diagnosis, this tender story has left me feeling grateful and so very blessed. I hope you will give it a read and I wish you the best!

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