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3 Things by Amy Lupold Bair, Resourceful Mommy

3 Things by Amy Lupold Bair, Resourceful Mommy

Truth

Today my son was playing Madden 13 on the family iPad when my daughter asked if she could also get some iPad time.  “Sure,” I said. “You can play from 3:45 until 4:15.”

Instead of the thank you I anticipated, I got this from her pouty eight-year-old mouth: “You know, I think that he actually played longer than that.”

Here is the truth that I shared with her in that moment. Life is not “fair,” and if you use what other people have as the way to determine if you are happy, you never will be.

I am thirty-five years old and still struggle with this every day. It is one thing to pay attention to the successes and gains of others as a way to set your own personal goals. It is entirely something else to see what others have as indicating that there is less for you.

Happiness is a choice. I hope and pray that my children will embrace this truth and choose to live happy lives.

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Tip

Parenting is not for the faint of heart.

My husband and I learned this the moment we began our parenting journey when our daughter was born two months early. You might think that the experience of caring for a sick child, spending weeks in the NICU and then hours in specialists’ offices, would prepare us for anything that life handed us. But the truth is that my daughter’s first loose tooth brought me to my knees.

That is when I discovered the floss trick. Most loose teeth that are wiggly enough to come out (the kind of wiggly that very nearly causes me to faint) are just hanging on by one tiny little thread of tissue.  By placing a strand of floss behind the tooth, bringing each side forward on either side of the tooth, and then crossing the floss in front of the tooth in one rapid motion, you severe whatever connection remains.

The first time we tried this trick, my daughter’s tooth flew across the room and landed underneath her baby brother’s chair. Note: prepare for flying teeth before attempting this trick at home.

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Find

When you live in the suburbs, you spend an inordinate amount of time at product parties. Whether it’s jewelry, crafting supplies, or kitchen gadgets, these products make up the social fiber of the suburban mom.

I have a habit of rolling my eyes at these sorts of gatherings, but I try to attend as often as possible as an excuse to spend time with friends.  It was at one of these spending soirees that I discovered the Pampered Chef i-slice.

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This bad boy can be used for anything from opening the tape on packages to cutting wrapping paper. It only costs $4 and it sticks to your fridge with an internal magnet. Coolest. Gadget. Ever. (Ever!!!)

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  • seriously sassy mama February 13, 2013 at 8:10 am

    My favorite peri knife was from Pampered Chef. Back in the day they were only a dollar.

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  • JeanniePage February 13, 2013 at 11:04 am

    I am SO glad I opened up this site this a.m. I have two TEENAGE boys – and am so so happy I read your advice about comparing what other’s have to assess your own happiness. My sons have ALWAYs replied as your daughter did, “but he got more, longer, etc.”, which always has sent me in a tizzy bc then I didn’t know what to do except freak loudly, and now I have something smart, meaningful and so true to reply with and hopefully at this age, they’ll understand it finally! Thank you much!

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  • DionneB February 13, 2013 at 1:04 pm

    Happiness is a choice. That really resonated with me today. There is no secret, no magic pill, no nothing. With a few exceptions, we either decide to be happy or we don’t. I learned this eventually (probably by the time I was in my late 20′s and the mother of two) and now I try, persistently, to impart this same knowledge to my children. They’re teenagers now so they spend a lot of time “knowing better” than their parents, but my hope is that my consistent message, and the fact that I try to live a life that is congruent with that message, will eventually become their truth as well.

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