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It’s Okay to Drop Some Balls

3 Things by Danielle Smith, Extraordinary Mommy

3 Things by Danielle Smith, Extraordinary Mommy

Truth

You know what moms are doing every single day? We are juggling.

And when I juggle life, motherhood, work and self, I occasionally drop some balls. But I’ve learned to forgive myself for it.

It quite simply isn’t possible for us to keep all of our balls in the air every day—and it really is ok.

I am never a stellar mom at the exact same time that I am a stellar business owner. When I’m a stellar mom, I’m cheering from the sidelines, I’m helping with homework, I’m reading with my small people, I’m snuggling, I’m present.  I’m not on the phone with a client at the same time or answering emails or writing a chapter of a book.

And when I am finishing a project or speaking with a client, I’m not navigating the latest sibling rivalry, answering ‘what’s for dinner?’ or trying to figure out 3rd grade math (and I DO mean trying to figure it out). Trying to do either of those at the same time means someone isn’t getting the attention they deserve.

The truth is—I can’t be everything to everyone at every moment.

But I can have the most beautiful moments: some dedicated to motherhood—playing, laughing, journeying. Some to feeling fulfilled in work. And some (not often enough, but I’m a work-in-progress) to me.

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Tip

About a year and a half ago, I met a woman who shared one of her ‘a-ha’ moments with me. It spoke to my soul.

I have always been a ‘yes’ person. I say ‘yes’ to make people happy, to keep the peace, and because my ‘I think I cans’ are bigger than the number of true hours in my day.

And yet, I am not suggesting you learn to say no.

I think you should learn to listen to your inner ‘Hell Yeah!’

This was my soul moment…  I learned: If it isn’t a ‘Hell Yeah’, it’s a no.

If you are offered a job, a project, a lunch date, a volunteer position on the PTA or an opportunity to vacation with friends — if you don’t think, “Hell yeah I want to do that,” the answer is no. Or no thank you. Or not at this time. Or I appreciate the offer, but it isn’t the right fit.  However you want to respond, the result is the same. You have not added it to your ever-growing list of things to do.

Your time is precious. Value it. Make it a ‘Hell Yeah.’

Find

One of my absolute favorite new finds has become a ‘go-to’ place for gifts, birthdays, inspiration, a pick-me-up — or just when I need a reminder of the goodness in my life.

I am drawn to gifts that have meaning and Alex and Ani’s bangles allow you to pick something that matches the personality of the person to whom you are giving. Each charm has its own meaning, its own significance.

I wear a fleur de lis on my wrist — it is my favorite symbol. And I’ve given more than I can count.

They are so reasonably priced, so delicate and clearly come from the heart.

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Contributor: Danielle from Extraordinary Mommy
Enjoy her websites: DanielleSmithMedia.com and ExtraordinaryMommy.com
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Check out her books: MOM, Incorporated and Social Media Engagement For Dummies 

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  • Margaret polino Nicholas April 12, 2013 at 4:30 am

    I had to learn to take time for me. I was frazzled too, 4 babies ,full time job, school at night for a degree. So I probably dropped a ball, LOL

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  • Jenna@CallHerHappy April 12, 2013 at 7:42 am

    From the sounds of it, you work from home? If that is the case, would you mind telling me what a typical day looks like for you. I work from home as well, and I feel like I am tethered to my computer all day, and I don’t give nearly enough time to my kiddos.

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  • Lauren {3 Things Editor} April 12, 2013 at 9:36 am

    Jenna, I don’t know what your job requires — but I work from home too and the key to my day is time boxing. I try my best to have “work times” (mostly when kids are sleeping/other activities) and then the rest of the time, it’s family time. Having a set time to get things accomplished keeps me from that nagging feeling all day of “when am I going to get that done?” And then I can focus on what’s most important during family time :)

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  • Rudri Bhatt Patel @ Being Rudri April 12, 2013 at 10:17 am

    Saying no is difficult, especially when people pleasing is an embedded trait. As I get older, I am learning that time is a commodity. Before I jump to yes, I question whether it is something I truly want to do.

    I love the gift idea. The bracelets are charming. Thank You.

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  • Kristin Shaw (Two Cannoli) April 12, 2013 at 2:24 pm

    Danielle, the “Hell Yeah” advice really resonated with me. And it’s a great rule of thumb – I’m thinking about everything I commit to, and it’s not often enough a Hell Yeah but an “OK, I guess I should”. Thanks.

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  • Lauren {3 Things Editor} April 12, 2013 at 9:18 pm

    Me too, Kristin!

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  • Jen April 19, 2013 at 7:33 am

    Love the Hell Yeah! It made me smile and reminded me – yes, my time is precious and should demand only Hell Yeah commitments. Thank you.

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  • Allie May 5, 2013 at 11:21 am

    I love the “Hell Yeah” tip. When I really think about it, it’s like a gut check – and who can disagree with that?

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  • Kate June 18, 2013 at 9:55 pm

    Funny, right before I started reading this post I was debating whether or not I wanted to take my friend up on an invite for a play date later this week. Thanks to this post, I realized it wasn’t a, “Hell Yeah.” Thank you!

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