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Know What You Need

3 Things by Amber Strocel, Strocel.com

3 Things by Amber Strocel, Strocel.com

Truth

You only find out what you’re really like when you’re under stress.

We just got back from a Spring Break trip to Disneyland, and boy did my parenting true colours come through. The good news is that it wasn’t all bad. For instance, when the rubber hits the road, I’m actually more patient than I give myself credit for. However, I’m also prone to lock myself in the bathroom to escape from it all.

I’ve discovered that the key to parenting success isn’t so much about changing yourself to be “good.” What is good, anyway? Rather, it’s about playing to your strengths and honouring your needs.

For me, that means giving myself periodic breaks, and then going full-tilt when my tanks are full. Your needs and strengths are probably different, though, and that’s as it should be.

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Tip

If you yell at your preschooler across a crowded playground or library to come to you, there’s no way that kid is coming. At least, not if that kid is mine.

But if you kneel down and open your arms, they’ll happily run into them.

You look like a superstar — and you won’t be getting tons of looks from strangers as you strain your voice cajoling a reluctant three-year-old. Your mileage may vary, but with my children this trick works pretty much every time.

Find

I heart my Envirosax.

They fold up super-small to fit in a purse or diaper bag, so I’m never without a reusable bag. This is great for a green mama like me, because I try to avoid taking a plastic bag whenever possible.
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However, it’s not only about shopping.

The bags are also great for any time you need to carry something. With kids, this can mean treasures we find at the park, wet shoes or clothes — or even just a toy that they insist on bringing along and get tired of carrying.

Before I had kids, I had no idea how often I would just need a bag. Now that I’m a mom, I can’t live without them.

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  • Kathryn March 27, 2013 at 8:45 am

    Kneel and open your arms – that is brilliant, beautiful and sage advice. Thank you!

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  • Jenna@CallHerHappy March 27, 2013 at 10:27 am

    I love that tip about open arms! I am going to try it :) My daughter loves running into open arms. Genius!

    Also, I love that bag! I bought a fold-up reusable bag years ago when they were still looking pretty lame. It still works like a charm, but I would love a cute one like this. Somehow that seems to defeat its purpose though haha! Well, I know what to do if mine wears out!

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  • Shelly March 27, 2013 at 11:23 am

    Amber, your truth really spoke to me! Thank you! In August I had my second baby girl and found the adjustment to be very challenging. To say it was a stressful situation would be an understatement! I wish the worst I did was lock myself in the bathroom. One of my New Years resolutions was less yelling. I am glad to say things have drastically improved, partly from getting farther away from the newborn stage, but also from making the most of my strengths as a parent and learning what I need for support (and asking for it).
    I also have an enviro sac and Love it! It’s awesome.

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  • Margaret Polino Nicholas March 28, 2013 at 12:48 am

    I love the open your arms. That is the best advice.

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