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Life is Serious Enough

3 Things by Lian Dolan, Parenting Expert, Oprah.com

3 Things by Lian Dolan, Parenting Expert, Oprah.com

Truth

Life gets a lot more manageable when you can find the funny.

Maybe it’s because I’m from a big Irish Catholic family and the only way to get a word in at dinnertime was to tell a story that got a laugh, but I’ve always been a fan of funny. A well-told story with a great punch line, a clever observation, a killer impression of the guy behind you in line at the post office? All are welcome in my book.

But the older I get and the more life happens — caring for aging parents, getting two teenagers through high school, work pressure, the unending bad news on a national level — I have a deeper appreciation of having a sense of humor about the trials of everyday life.

Not everything is fodder for a joke, but most of what we struggle with, from poor customer service to sick kids, can benefit from a little reworking. Life is serious enough. Let’s not take ourselves so seriously that we can’t use humor as filter to make the darkest days a bit brighter.

Find the funny and you’ll find perspective, community and joy.

Tip

Be Selfish.

For many years, I was a serial school volunteer, fairly convinced that the world would stop spinning on its axis if I didn’t organize the Pioneer Day Festivities. But now, I’m older, wiser and lazier — and I can tell you that the world goes on, even if I’m not on the committee.

This year, I actually declared a Volunteer Sabbatical, clearing my calendar for 12 months to focus on family and work. So many moms ask me where I find the time to write and I honestly answer, “I don’t do all that volunteering. When I’m on deadline, I’m selfish with my time. And I get stuff done.”

Every mom seems to have a creative To Do List. Be a little selfish, say no to outside obligations for a year, and work on your dream project.

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Find

In the spirit of Finding the Funny, let me recommend a few funny women who share their own perspective with hilarious results.

First, try memoirs by Tina Fey (Bossypants) and Mindy Kaling (Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me?) now in paperback or, better yet, the audiobook.

Or try funny fiction, like Where’d You Go, Bernadette: A Novel by Maria Semple or The After Wife: A Novel by Gigi Grazier.

Finally, watch the brilliant Julia Louis Dreyfus in Veep. Thanks for the laughs, ladies.

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Contributor: Lian from The Chaos Chronicles
Check out her blogs and podcasts: Satellite Sisters and The Chaos Chronicles.
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Enjoy her books: Elizabeth the First Wife and Helen of Pasadena

 

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  • Shawn May 2, 2013 at 8:02 am

    I agree on being selfish … I’m shedding all of my volunteer work for a year as well. It’s easy for us moms to say sure we’ll do it because we know we can — but that doesn’t mean we need to. My motto: Just because I can doesn’t mean I should.

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  • Lian May 2, 2013 at 10:10 am

    Great motto, Shawn. We all get guilted into a lot of extra activities. Lian

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  • Jenna@CallHerHappy May 2, 2013 at 12:19 pm

    Loved Mindi’s book! I’ll have to check out your other recs now too!

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  • Allie May 5, 2013 at 10:52 am

    Love the Be Selfish Tip. I have learned…when the first two entered school, I was Volunteer Mom! When they went to Middle school, I bowed out. Now, poor children #3 & #4, they never see me at school!

    I loved Bossy Pants and Where’d You Go Bernadette!

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