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Our Kids Are Capable

3 Things by Erin M., The MOB Society

3 Things by Erin M., The MOB Society

Truth

Our children are much smarter and more capable than we give them credit for most days.

It took me a very long time – too long – to realize that, with a little time and instruction from my husband and I, there are many, many things we were doing for our boys that they could have been doing for themselves.

easter mom and the boys

We have an almost seven-year-old, a four-and-half-year-old, and a one-year-old. I am constantly amazed at how much sooner our second son is taking on new tasks and chores than his older brother did. And I know it’s not because he is smarter or more mature. It’s because MY perception of what he is capable of has changed.

When he wants to try something new, I am learning to say “Yes!” and if he fails, it’s a learning opportunity. If he succeeds, then we celebrate and move forward!

We started a weekly chore list for the boys a few months ago and I included a few things they didn’t know how to do yet. The first few weeks were rough, but with some patience {most of the time!} and instruction from me, they have taken on these tasks with great responsibility and pride.

I’m done being the reason my boys don’t step out courageously to try something new, even if it is a household chore. Instead, I will be their biggest cheerleader, their teacher as they learn new skills, and their shoulder to lean on when things don’t go as well as they hoped.

Tip

Give your kids a camera!

zoo pictures

It is such fun to see the world from their perspective. The pictures my sons have taken with old digital cameras {ones we weren’t using any more} have shown me what they value and notice in our home and in nature. Plus, using a digital camera means they can snap pictures all day long at no extra cost to you!

I store the pictures they want to keep in their own files on the computer and they feel like important photographers. And it’s fun to look back at their pictures.

Find

KNex Noah's Ark

K’NEX are the best present we ever gave our oldest son. He would build with them ALL. DAY. LONG. if we let him. He has learned to follow instructions very closely and has also come up with some amazing creations on his own.

Legos are still popular in our home, but his creativity has really soared with K’NEX. And I had some growing up, so I love the nostalgia of helping him build every once in a while.

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Contributor: Erin from Home with the Boys
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  • Jenna@CallHerHappy April 9, 2013 at 9:19 am

    I have bittersweet memories of K’Nex :) (mostly sweet!)

    My brother and I just loved those when we were younger – played with them for years. But, man, they hurt like legos when you step on the gear pieces haha!

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  • Julia's Math April 9, 2013 at 10:03 am

    I think my 3.5 year old will be getting some new “assignments” at home!

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  • Julia April 9, 2013 at 1:36 pm

    Great points, Erin. We’re still working on chores, but you are inspiring me to teach my children how to do more.

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  • Kara April 9, 2013 at 2:12 pm

    Cameras are fun… but another close mom friend and I learned a really tuff parenting lesson the hard way to never let kids have a camera without adult supervision. We had a toy Kid Tough Digital camera. I say “had” because we don’t own one anymore. Kids CAN get an idea to take pictures of things that they shouldn’t, even the young ones. The rule here now is that they are only allowed to take photographs when there is an adult present. No cameras hanging out in the toy box, or up in their rooms. It’s not worth the risk. Trust me. Lucky for us, we (us two moms) found the photos first before anyone else picked up the camera. Super scary moment. Thus worth sharing that cameras should not be treated as a toy, but something that should be closely supervised just like internet activity for young children. There are dangers and temptations we constantly need to be aware of as parents. Our kids were 4 years old at the time of this incident, we were prepping freezer meals when this took place. Just because they make a camera and call it a toy, doesn’t mean that it is a harmless toy. I am sure that your kids take photos when you go places and you are around. This is just a note to all moms to be careful. Thanks.

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  • Erin @ Home with the Boys April 9, 2013 at 2:59 pm

    That is a great warning, Kara! I’m so glad you added that! Yes, we just let them use it when we are around, but I’m going to be extra vigilant about those rules!

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  • Lisa Ahn April 18, 2013 at 9:03 am

    Our daughters took some of our best vacation pictures last summer. They are 6 and 9 now, and they see and notice so much that I miss.

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