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Sleep When Baby Sleeps? Not.

3 Things by Ilana Wiles, Mommy Shorts

3 Things by Ilana Wiles, Mommy Shorts


When you first bring a baby home, everyone tells you to “sleep when the baby sleeps.”

That’s a load of crap.

You also have to eat, shower, go to the bathroom, catch up on Mad Men, call your mom back, write thank you notes, organize the nursery, do laundry, find alone time with to your husband, etc. etc. etc.

Yes, I was exhausted. But in those first few months, when everything revolved around holding, bathing, changing and feeding my new baby, I needed those precious naptime hours to be productive for myself. And when I was showered and fed, I still wanted to do things like take a walk, go to the gym, read a book, watch TV, play online, etc.

If I had spent that time sleeping, I think I would have lost my mind.

I say do whatever makes you feel like you are retaining your sanity. If that’s playing Words With Friends on your iPhone for the five minutes you have to yourself, do it. If that’s sleep, more power to you.



Let your baby have a pacifier.

I gave one to both my children the day they were born and never had a problem with breastfeeding like I’ve heard warnings about. Plus, it’s so much easier to quickly soothe your child and keep them happy.

People are afraid their baby will become dependent on it, but the reality is, if you don’t use a pacifier, your baby is just going to learn to suck on their own fingers.

You can take a pacifier away when your child hits 18 months.

You can’t take away your child’s thumb.


As a working mom, I could not live without a strapless hands-free pumping bra.

Pumping one, two, three times a day while you’re at work is a big job. It’s time consuming, disruptive to your day and not exactly the best feeling in the world.

But at least, with the combination of a hands-free pumping bra and a smart phone, you can turn your pumping time into Facebook/Twitter/Instagram checking time. Or read a book. Catch up on current events. Respond to emails.

I’ve actually begun to enjoy my pumping time, because I can spend that fifteen minutes doing personal stuff that I normally wouldn’t feel comfortable doing at work.

The strapless version is an added bonus. It means you can pull up your shirt and put it on right over your regular nursing bra without taking anything off. Which is great since the pumping room at my office has a window that looks directly into the building next door.

That’s one show nobody wants to see. 


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  • erin April 18, 2013 at 8:21 am

    real advice is always best! i tried to get my third to take a paci and the booger would suck his finger and hold the paci! turd :)

  • Sareh April 18, 2013 at 8:56 am

    You are my kind of mom! I tried the “sleep when the baby sleeps” with my first daughter and would just lay there and think of all the things I’d rather be doing. I felt so much better when I just did what I wanted to. Same idea with her pacifier. I didn’t get the hands free bustier thing the first time around, but it’s a must this time.

  • Darshini April 18, 2013 at 9:05 am

    I don’t agree with the pacifier thing! I never gave my child a pacifier, he don’t even know what that is! He is 2 now and he neither took pacifier nor his thumb! I hated that thing, seen kids aging from 1 month – 4 years having that pacifier in the mouth, looks so mousy, specially grown up kids!

  • Jenna@CallHerHappy April 18, 2013 at 10:21 pm

    Truth: Amen!
    Tip: Amen Again!
    Find: I’ve never had to use one; I was able to get away with a hand pump, but if I was busy with work AND a kid, this would be great!

  • Flower Patch Farmgirl April 19, 2013 at 7:06 am

    I like you, Lady.

  • Madeleine April 22, 2013 at 1:15 pm

    Another one who disagrees with the pacifier tip. I have nothing against them, but to say that a child will just suck fingers if s/he isn’t given one is simply not true. We tried to get our first to take one and she point blank refused but never sucked her fingers or thumb. Our second is an avid thumbsucker and that’s fine with us – he’ll give up in time just as we did before him.

  • ian August 22, 2013 at 5:11 am

    Pacifiers are a waste of time. They impede speech development. What did people do before pacifiers were invented?
    My 2 didn’t get them and never sucked their thumbs. Any parents I’ve known who gave them, then end up fighting tooth and nail to get the child to give them up…

  • Mary October 10, 2013 at 2:12 pm

    I think the sleep when your baby sleeps only works when it is around your normal time to sleep. I am also a full time student so I can’t sleep all the time when my daughter sleeps. I need some productivity and you can only sleep so much.