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The Hard Work of Being Good

3 Things by Pilar Guzman, Martha Stewart Living

3 Things by Pilar Guzman, Editor-in-Chief of Martha Stewart Living Magazine


No matter how much you love someone (aka your spouse), you sometimes have to work hard to be good to each other.

That is, most of us enter marriage/relationship thinking that if you love the person and they love you, the appropriate behavior will follow suit. Then life intervenes, the stresses of parenthood flair and we all get short with each other, keep our internal scorecards of who’s doing more of what for the family unit, etc.

Kindness or good relationship behavior, even if you consider yourself to be a kind person, is sort of like a muscle that needs stretching and strengthening.

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Cook a few things on Sunday so that you aren’t starting from scratch every night.

I just spent a couple of hours this morning roasting vegetables (beets, brussels, sweet potatoes, acorn squash) because I was tired of having vegetables be the afterthought and defaulting to the same old bag of baby carrots. Even if they are organic.


I’m a big fan of any knit top/sweater by Ulla Johnson. Everything she makes is really easy, wearable, appropriate for work but just fashion-y and sexy enough without being too sexy.

On the kid front, I am a huge fan of the Oeuf reversible alpaca hoodie sweater that zips from top of the hood in the back down, which means you never have to try to make that initial zipper connection on a squirming toddler in the dead of winter. It’s very thick and functions almost like a jacket in the fall. It’s the most brilliant (and beautiful) piece of children’s clothing I’ve ever bought.



Contributor: Pilar, Editor-in-Chief of Martha Stewart Living
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