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The Love Language of Lunch

3 Things by Peg Moline, Fit Pregnancy

3 Things by Peg Moline, Fit Pregnancy


I have two girls, one now 20, one 17. And there have been so many things in my life that mark time: the noises heard around the house; which electronics are piled on the coffee table.

But lately, I’ve been thinking about lunch.

I love making a kid’s lunch, finding the perfect little container to put the pasta or sandwich in; adapting to eating habits such as sudden vegetarianism or a vow to go “gluten-free” (why does a 17-year-old need to cut out gluten?); having that tiny bit of control over what she’s ingesting. I even used to put love notes in or even just post-its. Now the lunch is the love.

I remember quite distinctly the day I made my older daughter’s last bag lunch. It was her last day of high school, and as I was cutting the mozzarella and tomatoes, and tearing the basil (she was having a caprese sandwich), it hit me that this was the last time I’d be doing this for her. She was stepping away from me. Most of her friends made their own lunches, anyway, so it shouldn’t have been a huge deal. But it made me cry—not a rare occurrence during her senior year, and it was lunch that did it that day.

I tucked in a love note, just for fun.


Having a baby is a huge strain on a relationship. I know lots of marriages that broke—a little or a lot—with the arrival of a newborn. My own got pretty battered, and here’s something I wish someone had told me:

At regular times during the day, look at each other. Notice how many days you go through without raising your eyes and looking into each others’. It doesn’t have to lead to sex (sometimes it does, though, and that’s a good thing), but it’s too easy to NOT do this, day after day. Just stop, look away from the dishes or the kids, and gaze. Full on. Say hi. It’s a powerful bond.


I swear I didn’t start out with a theme, but I love Laptop Lunch kits, especially the ones tucked into colorful carriers. The carriers have pockets and zippers for all the utensils, etc, and the kits are full of sandwich-sized containers (great for anything), smaller-sized bento boxes for fruit or salad, even a tiny one for salad dressing or hummus. You really don’t need all those little Earth-wrecking plastic bags.

Lunch ideas and recipes come with it all, and of course you can subscribe to a newsletter that supplies endless ideas, every week.

As I said, I like making lunches; with these kits, I look forward to it even more (my youngest still gets a lunch every day, at least for the next ten months or so. Sigh.)

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Contributor: Peg Moline, Founding editor, Fit Pregnancy magazine; editor in chief, Natural Health magazine
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