I’m an introvert. That’s not a bad thing, I’m not apologizing for it. I’m merely recognizing it.
Because of this inherent part of my personality, I sometimes get anxious and quiet when I’m put in a social situation where I don’t know anyone. About five years ago we moved to Denver where I didn’t know one person. My husband was in law school so our time together was limited and I found myself basically hiding in a corner in our apartment, sad that I had no friends.
Noticing I was down, my husband gave me a kind, but firm, talking to and told me, “If you want friends, stop complaining and go make some.”
I was hoping he had an easier solution, but I realized he was right. So the next week at church (one of the only social situations I had at the time), I gave myself a pep talk and started introducing myself to people. I’m not going to lie, it was hard and draining and I was super self conscious. But the more I got myself to just do it, the easier it became. And I made some great friends.
When you’re in a new place and trying to find friends, it’s really easy to fall into the woe is me trap where you wonder why everyone isn’t jumping at the chance to meet you and be your friend. The fact is, you can’t complain if you haven’t made an effort.
Change out all your boring white socks for fun patterned socks. Instant happy wardrobe update.
I don’t know why it’s taken me so long to find Kid President, but watching one of his videos might be the sunniest five minutes of your day. I want to start inserting the phrase “You just got pep talked!” into my daily conversations.