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Those Who Matter Don’t Mind

3 Things by Lyss Stern, Diva Moms

3 Things by Lyss Stern, Diva Moms


The absolute best and most valuable life lesson I’ve learned is: I cannot please everyone.

I’ve always tried my best to gratify everyone with whom I cross paths — and have always gotten anxious and gloomy when someone was displeased with me.

But I have realized that struggling to impress everyone only leaves me with the shorter end of the straw (and with a ton of unfinished projects I’m unable to put all my energy into).

Sometimes, I have to put myself first and do what satisfies my soul and mind. And if that means turning down requests for events that I don’t wholeheartedly believe in, so be it.

If it means leaving a meeting early so I’m able to pick up my sons from school and take them out for ice cream, so be it.

If that means using a service from a business that works well for me — when a friend owns the competing business — so be that, too.

When I’ve tried to please everyone, I’ve ended up pleasing no one — or far few more people than I would have liked.

But when I make sure to feed and respect my soul, body and mind, I am pleased — and so are the people I genuinely care about and who genuinely care about me.

“Those who matter don’t mind, and those who mind don’t matter.” — Dr. Seuss



Recipe substitution is a great way to make meals healthier.

Use unsweetened applesauce instead of butter and oil in baked goods to add moisture and reduce fat. Also, using plain Greek yogurt instead of sour cream is a great way to cut calories and add protein to family Mexican night or the occasional cake recipe. And believe it or not, Greek yogurt also tastes great when making tuna or chicken salads.

I love doing this with my food. My kids never know the difference — and I feel better knowing I’m feeding them a healthier option.


I can’t live without my Newton neon sneakers.

I love the bright colors. They add a little skip in my step when I’m running around the city, picking up my kids from school — or running a thousand different errands.

They also give me an edge up from feeling too dressed down, and are perfect on a gloomy day when a little color goes a long way!


Contributor: Lyss from Diva Moms
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