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You Have to Own It

3 Things by Stacey Delo,

3 Things by Stacey Delo,


My husband and I were going out for a rare night out recently — we have a one-year-old and a three-year-old, so our nights are usually spent on the sofa! We were headed to a 40th birthday party with a club theme, so I put on a tube top, skinny jeans and heels. Wow. I felt about 15 years younger.

I asked my husband if he thought it made me look like I was trying too hard — can a woman about to be 40 years old still rock a tube top? Are tube tops even in style these days?! Like a wise husband, he said, “you look hot,” but he added, “if you wear it, you have to own it.”

I think about that philosophy a lot with my business, which helps working moms find flexible job opportunities.

Whether you’re working full time and looking to scale back a little bit to be with your kids — or you’ve been out of the workforce for a few years and are ready to get back in — you can find the work solution that’s right for you if you know who you are in the moment or stage you are in, can understand how you got there, and where you can go. You have to own who you are today — and who you want to become.

If you own it, you can do anything.



My biggest tip these days is to outsource time consuming tasks that don’t bring you satisfaction.

Even when I was making very little money, I always outsourced house cleaning. Now, I also have someone help with our laundry and various organizational tasks around the house. This helps me have more time for my work and for my kids, and thanks to services like TaskRabbit can be done relatively inexpensively.

I really like to cook so that’s one thing I’ve kept for myself.


I realize this Find is so simple and counter to my otherwise gadget-driven existence (my “Finds” there are Google Now and Slice), but I garden to relax, and especially love growing hydrangeas.

This year I’m also growing tomato plants and tending to a couple lemon trees — all of which seem to attract ants.

I did some research and found that crushing fresh mint or growing mint plants around the tomato plants and lemon trees serves as a natural deterrent to ants, as does sprinkling cayenne pepper and cinnamon near the plants. Simple, inexpensive, non-toxic, and so gratifying!


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